Sunday, February 9, 2014

My dull life!

What's new? Do anything interesting on your day off? How was your weekend?

These are things I'm asked by my coworkers on a weekly basis.

My replies are always the same:

Nothing much. I vacuumed and watered my houseplants. Had to work at the crafts store this weekend.

My vacuum. Apparently it'll never lose suction.

The months seem to fly by but that's because I'm always doing the exact routine week after week.

How wonderful it would be to travel (often), meet new people, do exciting things.

My life is so boring but I don't know how to change it.

I don't really have friends outside the workplace anymore and seeing movies by yourself and going to art exhibits alone gets redundant...and depressing.

In a perfect world, I'd see the globe, create art all the time, and no two days would be alike.

Some say quiet, uneventful days are a good thing, and they are--just not when it's like that ALL the time.

I think that's one reason why I've always been attracted to comic books and fiction. There's always an adventure happening on those pages.

With that said, this weekend I worked at the crafts store, rented a movie for home, vacuumed, and watered my houseplants.



Jaimie SKS said...

My weekends are basically the same, if it makes you feel any better! Except I'm too lazy to vacuum, let alone water any plants. But I DO feed my fish on a daily basis!
My advice to you is to start slow. Maybe go for a small hike or buy a bike? Bikes always take you to unexpected places if you let them :)

naturgesetz said...

"I don't really have friends outside the workplace anymore and seeing movies by yourself and going to art exhibits alone gets redundant...and depressing.

In perfect world, I'd see the globe, create art all the time, and no two days would be alike."

Well, I think having most days and weeks follow a pattern is probably a good thing. That way the exceptional can be exceptional.

I also think that going to art exhibits and movies alone is way better than not going at all, and better than sitting at home doing nothing. (But if renting movies to view at home is cheaper than paying admission to a theater, it deffo makes sense to rent.)

That said, I understand the desire for travel, meeting new people, and doing exciting things, even though I think they should be the exception, rather than the rule. So how to do it?

Travel takes money, so you've got to save. And look for ads for group tours that you might be able to afford on your vacation. (Does the university provide opportunities to alumni?) Check with travel agencies. You don't need the grand tour of Europe. A weekend in Montreal or Quebec or Charleston or New Orleans might be just the thing. (If you came to Boston, maybe there'd be time to meet up.)

Meeting new people at home requires going to events, or bars.

What happened to the friends you used to have outside the workplace? Are they still around? Would you like to be friends with them again? If so, try to reconnect.

Here's hoping that you can find a travel opportunity that works for you and develop or recover some friendships locally and find some interesting things to do.

I also hope you'll produce more artwork that I can bid on.

Dean Grey said...


I actually don't know how to ride a bike.

I've never had one growing up and never bothered to learn as an adult.

Might have to give that a try!



Thanks for the ideas!

No, the university I work for doesn't offer any type of travel opportunities.

The friends I had outside of work kind of fizzled away a couple years ago and in the end I realized they were never really friends to begin with.

Travel not only takes money but time too. Unfortunately it's hard to take time off from either job so that's the biggest challenge there.

I guess I feel like I'm stuck in a rut and don't know how to get out of it.


Both of your suggestions are greatly appreciated!


Rickster said...

You're not alone Dean, I have had some "monotony" issues as of lately as well. I think the colder temperatures have had a lot to do with it, but during the summer months I enjoyed long hikes and really do miss that.

I recommend just trying one thing out of the ordinary on your day or time off. I think if you do that, you'll be more apt to trying something else in the future.

Good luck to you fellow Chicagoan!


Soul Yaoi said...

The rut shall pass.

Dean Grey said...


For me it's like that year-round so the weather isn't the sole factor.

But I like your idea of trying just one thing to start out with.


Soul Yaoi!

Haha, we shall see!


Thanks to the pair of you!


Klee said...

Been a follower of your blog for years, I truly sympathize with you and often share the same feelings. I used to live in the US now I'm back in my hometown, Rio de Janeiro (Brazil). You'd think it'd be truly exciting living in such a lively city...My family is here (I lived alone in the US for many years...) but I've never felt so lonely in a city (just like when I was growing up here, tsk.) Just drop me a line if you'd like to know more about my life and maybe we can get ourselves out of our routines!

Randuwa said...

Everyday is full of possibility, but most don't pan out--that's just how life works, but you know that. I liked the comment about the exceptional being thus exceptional when it comes along. I also think that going to museums alone is only one way to think about that--I go by myself the time, but I'm not alone. The art is waiting for me to engage with it. I know, that's not what you meant, but it is true. My best to you always, my friend.

Dean Grey said...


I'm sorry to hear you're lonely too but I'm sure Brazil is beautiful!



I like the notion of the art waiting for me to engage with it.

I'll keep that in mind the next time I go to the art museum, Randy!


Thank you both!