Wednesday, June 12, 2013

You keep me hangin' on.

"Set me free why don't cha babe
Get out my life why don't cha babe
'cause you don't really love me
You just keep me hangin' on

Set me free why don't cha babe
Get out my life why don't cha babe
'cause you don't really need me
But you keep me hangin' on

Why do you keep a comin' round
Playing with my heart
Why don't cha get out of my life
And let me make a brand new start
Let me get over you
The way you've gotten over me yeah."

Four months into dating you ended things between us.

You wanted us to be friends instead.

But then you message me all the time and tell me you're lonely. I spend the night by you like a fool, but there's no love or tenderness from you anymore. I keep hoping you'll grab me by the face and say you want me back...but you never do.

When I look into your eyes it's like being rejected all over again. Little stabs to the heart.

If the relationship is done with then let me go. Don't keep me around as a back-up or because you miss me. My heart doesn't like games and I deserve much better.

You either want me or you don't.

"You say although we broke up
You still just wanna be friends
But how can we still be friends
When seeing you only breaks my heart again

Get out, get out of my life
And let me sleep at night
'cause you don't really love me
You just keep me hangin' on

You say you still care for me
But your heart and soul needs to be free
And now that you've got your freedom
You wanna still hold onto me
You don't want me for yourself
So let me find somebody else

Set me free why don't cha babe
Get out my life why don't cha babe
'cause you don't really love me
You just keep me hangin' on."


Mike said...

Conflicting messages - not good. Love the Supremes btw... love that you were able to incorporate them into the post!

BTW I'm so thrilled to be going to Chicago in 2 weeks!

naturgesetz said...

If you haven't told him this, maybe you should. A good conversation about what he wants the relationship to be seems to be in order. What does he see as the possibilities for your future as friends?

It sounds to me as if each of you wants the other in his life. But how does each of you see that playing out?

Can you find the sort of relationship which is possible, acceptable. Would you rather have what you can have with him or would you rather not have it? Maybe you want a more intimate relationship than he's willing to have, but would you rather have the relationship that's possible or no relationship with him at all?

I hope you can find the way that will lead to your greater happiness.


*kisses on the cheek*

Rebecca said...

aw honey wish i could do something to make it better

Randuwa said...

Dean, thinking of you little brother. I know you know how to survive--I am here, too.

Anonymous said...

You need to cut the cord; breaking your heart each day isn't going to make it better. Believe me, I've done that before and it doesn't prove to be productive. There is a guy out there for you that loves you for YOU. Trust me.


Dean Grey said...


I hope you have a wonderful time in Chicago!

The taste of Chicago launches at the end of this month so you'll have to check it out if you're still here around that time.



Well he ended the relationship, so in my eyes, he needs to the be the one to make the first move if he intends for us to get back together.

He wants us to build a solid friendship and then see if something more can develop again.

But he also suggested possibly dating other people.

I really don't know anymore.



I appreciate that.



Thanks Randy.



There may be someone else out there for me but I don't think I'll find him anytime soon.

So few men are interested in me here in Chicago.


Everyone's supportive comments are greatly appreciated!


Cantagallo said...

Hi Dean,
We obviously don't know each other but it seems from what you've written that your friend is very selfish and, perhaps, a mixture of loneliness and low self-esteem is causing you to be far too accommodating. True or not, it is obvious that this situation has been damaging to you. I hope this isn't too harsh and we can all be a little self destructive at times but please try and internalize the fact that you are not just some means to an end but have intrinsic value. A good partner would recognize this.

Dean Grey said...


I think he was more hurt than anything and had trouble letting me go after he gave it some thought.

But yes, loneliness, low self-esteem, and missing him all caused me to stick around.

Only time will tell what happens between us in the end.